Wednesday, 1 June 2016

Returning favours in turns of favours bestowed



Yet another very sophisticated facet of greed is expecting or demanding favors in return for the favors bestowed. Superficially it seems to be very logical, you help me and I will help you. However deep inside the motives are very selfish.
Firstly unreciprocated generosity even exists? Yes it does. But not for greedy people. For selfless individuals the world has a way of returning favors called "karma ". "Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” Princess Diana. Everybody’s has heard of what goes around comes around . Doing good will ultimately bring good in your favor without any expectation. But if you are expecting a return from the very beginning than that trait is not virtue but a vice all dressed up to deceive. If one does a favor and expects something in return than it is nothttp://www.dobermandan.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/quidproquo.jpg humility but business. So one should be very clear in one’s mind if he's working towards generosity or is it just quid pro quo. There are shrewd people in the world who will only be in your good books when they know they can expect something in return ,you scratch my back ,I will scratch yours kind of phenomenon. There is no harm being a little street smart so you are not taken advantage of, but there is definitely a huge issue when you only extend your helping hands to those whom you know will ‘return the favors’. This last situation has been branded legal socially and it is called networking and not generosity. Generosity is when you know you’re helping someone who can probably not help you back or maybe he can but you are a strong enough individual not to expect anything in return and keep your heart clean. So it's one thing to be generous and another thing to develop a mutually beneficial relationship.
This was another simple example how greed affects us without us even being aware of it. How convenient for us to help someone whom we know can return the favor tomorrow, and how difficult for us to just be on the giving end. This affect is most commonly observed in the western culture especially affecting the new immigrants. In my experience I have actually observed a few angels who continue helping people without “getting paid for it”. And I have also witnessed sugar coated devils who will help you once and make you return the favor  atleast  five times ,or worse will only appear in scene when they know they will actually benefit from it . And as soon as they discover that there is nothing in it for them, they disappear like a poltergeist. One can actually categorize ones self just by thinking deep right into our motives before extending a helping hand. This world is in shortage of selfless people and by diagnosing this issue and mere restricting ourselves to taking advantage of the other individual ,we can help create more friendly environment.


 

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